The Process of Handling a Death

When your love one passes away, it is a very emotional time. It is during this time that you need someone to help walk you through the funeral process who is both compassionate and able to remain rational.

Your funeral director and the funeral home staff is someone who can do this for you.

In addition, there are many things you must consider.

For instance, you will decide if you want a traditional funeral experience or to utilize cremation options. This decision will impact some of the other decisions you make.

If you choose a traditional funeral experience, you will need to decide on basic elements of a funeral service.

Some of those decisions include:

What kind of budget do you have? What kind of clothes will the deceased wear in the casket? Where will the location of the funeral be? The funeral home or a church? What kind of casket will you choose? Does the cemetery have certain requirements? What kind of gravestone will you purchase? Who will speak at the funeral or do the eulogy? Will you have a music director? What kind of music will you have? Who will be the pallbearers? Will you have a service at the graveside? Where will you get your flower arrangements?

These are questions that will need to be answered, and, your funeral director is a big asset in helping you make decisions as well as other family members and a pastor.

If you choose to have a cremation, you will need to decide what to do with the ashes. Some will store them in a urn some-place special or bury the urn in a cemetery. Others will choose to scatter the ashes or have jewelry created.

Choosing cremation does not mean that you cannot have a service. Often those who choose cremation have a memorial service. If you choose to have a service you will need to consider the things mentioned above as well.

In addition, whether a traditional funeral or cremation, you will need to consider the obituary, the death certificates for official notification of deceased as well as other notifications to family, friends and creditors. Also, you may want to take the time to say goodbye as a family.

In most cases you will need a copy of your loved one’s death certificate, a will if there is one and may need some kind executor of estate paperwork. Mortgage companies require this and it is a good idea to secure whatever you can to help manage these assets upon death of your loved one.

Finally, some things you may not think of is the deceased’s digital footprint.

This is something to thing about. Does your love one have online accounts on a bank, a credit card website or Facebook? Consider how you will need to handle.

You can create a digital will just like a regular will.

The more you are able to prepare now the easier you make it on your family later.

Abbey Cremation Service is here to help. We have a whole staff of licensed funeral directors, and we believe in treating everyone who comes through our facility as if they were a member of our own family. We have been in business for almost 30 years, as opposed to most of our competitors who have just popped up over the last decade. Let our experience speak for itself, and give us a call today at 1-800-890-9000 or send an email to

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