JUNE 6, 1962 - OCTOBER 25, 2023
Brent Callahan as he was known to everyone, left this world peacefully on October 25, 2023.
Brent was born at Fort Benning in Chatahoochie Georgia to his Mother Francis Archer Murphy
and his Father Matthew Augustus Callahan. He spent his early childhood in their family home.
in Maryland, where most of his extended family still live. He and his family then moved to West.
Hartford, Ct. And then to Avon, Ct. He and his husband Robert settled in Newington, Ct. for the
past 29 years. Brent graduated from Avon High School and then went on to graduate from culinary.
school, where he developed his love for cooking, and boy could he cook. He eventually found his
calling in caregiving for the mentally handicapped. He worked for many state and private group.
homes. He loved his clients, and they loved him, he had the patience of a saint. It was a pleasure.
to watch him grow in this field. His career spanned over 3o years. He also worked in the
restaurant business where he served and met so many wonderful friends.
Brents passions included cooking, gardening, painting pictures, skiing, spending time at the beach.
building sandcastles, roller coasters and most of all, socializing with friends, family and especially
strangers. once you met him you never forgot him, he lived life to the fullest. Anyone who met him.
loved his personality and energy. you really never knew what would come out of his mouth next.
Due to his illnesses over the last eight years, little by little he could no longer do the things he loved.
He also loved going to the casino and going to concerts. Music and singing along made him so
happy, right to the end.
brent is survived by his husband Robert Bergonzi, they were married for nine years and together for
thirty-nine years. His Father Matthew Augustus Callahan, his stepmother Linda Callahan, his older
brother Matthew Augustus Callahan Jr., his younger brother Matthew Adam Callahan, his aunt and
godmother Margie Kadesuk, his aunt and uncle Peggy and Ronnie Stafford, his many aunts, uncles
and cousins...too many to mention. His beloved dog Gus Gus, his special childhood friend who he
spent many years with growing up in West Hartford Karen Cebollero, and last but not least his good
friend and partner in crime Carol Eliason. one of his favorite things to do was going to his big family.
reunions in Maryland where he loved to catch up with everyone while spending hours picking and
eating crabs for hours. Brent was predeceased by his Mother Francis Archer Murphy shea, his
maternal grandparents Everett and Ruth Murphy, his paternal grandparents Lawrence and Margie
Callahan, his uncle Lawrence, his uncle beau, his cousin Becky and his cousin Angelina Cheyanne.
Brent will be buried next to his mother and Maternal grandparents in Greenmount cemetary in
Hillsboro Maryland in july. A celebration of life for all his Connecticut friends and family will be in
June sometime around his birthday, his husband will let everyone know when and where.
HE IS GONE
YOU CAN SHED TEARS THAT HE IS GONE
OR YOU CAN SMILE BECAUSE HA HAS LIVED
YOU CAN CLOSE YOUR EYES AND PRAY THAT HE WILL COMEBACK
OR YOU CAN OPEN YOUR EYES AND SEE ALL THAT HE HAS LEFT
YOUR HEART CAN BE EMPTY BECAUSE YOU CAN'T SEE HIM
OR YOU CAN BE FULL OF THE LOVE THAT YOU SHARED
YOU CAN TURN YOUR BACK ON TOMORROR AND LIVE YESTERDAY
OR YOU CAN BE HAPPY FOR TOMORROW BECAUSE OF YESTERDAY
YOU CAN REMEMBER HIM AND ONLY THAT HE IS GONE
OR YOU CAN CHERISH HIS MEMORY AND LET IT LIVE ON
YOU CAN CRY AND CLOSE YOUR MIND, BE EMPTY AND TURN YOUR BACK
OR YOU CAN DO WHAT HE WOULD WANT: SMILE, OPEN YOUR EYES, LOVE AND GO ON
WHEN i MET BRENT MY WORLD WAS BLACK AND WHITE
AND HE ADDED THE COLOR. I WILL LOVE YOU FOR ETERNITY.
BOB
The best times of my life, Brent was there and probably responsible for most of my laughter. He loved to tease me and I pretended to hate it but I loved all the attention he bestowed on me. I cannot believe he is really gone. I was so lucky to be your friend Brent and God I really hope we will somehow meet again.