My Obituary
Written by Elaine S. Wyzga
January 8, 1932 - November 5, 2022
It is said the first breadth we inhale is the beginnings of the last breath we exhale, and what happens in between becomes our life. Elaine's life was filled with happiness, excitement, sadness, and joy. The demise of her husband Stanley prompted a move from Florida to Connecticut where she lived her last years.
During her years with Stanley, they became parents of two wonderful children: daughter, Debra Maidment and son, Andrew. They both brought two additions to her family, Scott and Dorothy (Dee). Although one would call them in-laws, Elaine claimed them as additional children. Her family continued to grow when her two beautiful granddaughters entered her life; Christine Spencer and Kimberly (Kim) Maidment. Christine added husband Bradley (Brad) and they made Elaine a Great Grandmother (Nana) when Brayden arrived.
Elaine requested that there be no ceremony, viewing, sadness, or tears, just a celebration of smiles from all the cadre of friends who knew her. Elaine made friends easily and joined social groups of great intellectual interest. She was a member of the Plainville Senior Center, the Plainville Choral Society and various writing groups containing friends with whom she took criticism for her written creations. One of her writing groups had the special privilege of Elaine’s gourmet skills.
As her last wish, Elaine has given her children orders to celebrate her life by spending time at Barnegat Bay in New Jersey where she spent many a day with her father Andrew and mother Sue, leaning over the edge of a rowboat with a drop line in the water, to wait for a crab to bite and hope it wouldn't fall off the stinky piece of chicken that was at the end of the hook. She would experience heaven on earth consuming these luscious, Jersey blue crabs. For the crabs to feed on her ashes would be a way of giving back (sort of). To top off this solemn occasion, music of Ravel's Bolero, which Elaine felt was the sexiest piece of music ever written, will be playing in the background.
Her footprint on earth has been erased and will be replaced by someone else who will breathe their first breath and live their lives until their last and when if it were possible to hear that last clarinet note.
A private celebration of life for Elaine will be held at a future date. In lieu of flowers, donations can be made, in Elaine’s memory, to the Make a Wish foundation.
