Thomas Robert Messenger Sr. (Tom) 56, of Enfield, Connecticut passed away peacefully at Saint Francis Hospital on Sunday, May 16, 2021 surrounded by his loving family. Tom was born January 2,1965 in Hartford, Connecticut, to the late Clarence and Romanina Messenger.
Tom was a resident of Enfield, CT his entire life. First and foremost, Tom was a dedicated father who treasured each of his children and embraced every moment that he could spend in their company. He especially loved his role as a grandfather, or “Gampy,” as he was affectionately known. Tom was very much loved by many friends and family, especially his older sister, Christine, who helped raise him and take care of him when he was young. Christine was an amazing caregiver to Tom for the past three years, taking care of all his medical needs and bringing him to his medical appointments, and a loving sister throughout his lifetime. Tom was beloved by his family and friends alike for his witty personality and ability to make others laugh. Tom loved his family more than anything in the world.
Tom was passionate about traveling and drove an 18-wheeler cross country for 30 years in addition to working for NETTTS (New England Tractor Trailer Training School) as an instructor. When he wasn't working, Tom loved riding his Harley Davidson motorcycle, listening to country music, playing card games, barbecuing, and learning new cuisines to cook. His family fondly remembers his love for watching old black and white shows and listening to comedy. He will be remembered for his wonderful sense of humor and the sarcastic t-shirts that he was fond of wearing.
Tom will be dearly missed by his family. He is survived by his devoted sisters, Christine Messenger (husband Tracey Bruttomesso) of Bloomfield, CT, and Marie Messenger of Granby, CT, his brother Clark Messenger, of Agawam, MA, and his beloved children, Christina Porcello of Ware, MA, Tommy Messenger of Enfield, CT and Cara Messenger (fiancé Phillip Duncan) of Enfield, CT. He is also survived by his grandchildren Dylan, Mackenzie, Jackson and Chloe and one more on the way. He leaves behind many nieces, nephews and cousins, as well as his best friend Paul Reddell and his dear cat Milly. Tom was predeceased by his parents Clarence and Romanina, brothers Richard and Douglas Messenger and dog Luger.
The family would like to say a special thank you to DaVita and Masonic care for the great health care they provided to Tom for years, Dale Fee and her late husband Joseph Laforte for bringing him to his appointments, and a special thanks to Lorraine who was Tom’s favorite visiting care nurse.